So, does this mean I'm a lesbian?

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My time was a few years before this; I was into Andrew McCarthy, Tommy Howell, Rob Lowe, Duran Duran, etc. But the point still stands: I was totally into those pretty, pretty boys.

And... I still am.

I think there's some validity to the reasoning, here: Very young girls who are just figuring sex out go for boys who seem sexually non-threatening. And so would lesbians. Girls who had experienced sexual abuse would probably go for the theoretically neutered ones, too.

In my case, though the latter was a small factor, it was different. I didn't want those boys because I just wanted to hold hands and walk on the beach with them. I wanted them because I wanted to do the nasty. Only I wanted to be the one doing the...doing. So to speak.

The vast majority of the men I'm attracted to now are ones who have a slightly submissive vibe. Big, macho dudes who want some me-Tarzan missionary lovin' are going to be sadly disappointed with the kind of boinkery I prefer. The non-macho boys, though? Well, speaking from experience, they're plenty happy when someone wants to lay them out and make them see god.

I admit to some annoyance when people assume that because I'm attracted to these kinds of guys, that means I'm secretly a lesbian. Supposedly, what I'm attracted to is femininity, and therefore that means I solely want the ladies.

Ehm.

So, let's look at the women I crushed out on when I was a young thing, shall we?

Martha Quinn
Mary Stuart Masterson (in Watts/Idgie mode)
Ally Sheedy
Jo from Facts of Life

... You get the point.

So, if my attraction to pretty boys means I'm a lesbian, does my attraction to tomboys mean I'm actually straight?

Or, does it really mean that I just have a type, and it's the same basic gender expression, just without too much care about the actual physical configuration?

I'll go with door number three, Monty.


FTR, I do have more types than that. Curvy goddess sorts, for instance. Come to mama, darlings.