So, does this mean I'm a lesbian?

[textualdeviance]

My time was a few years before this; I was into Andrew McCarthy, Tommy Howell, Rob Lowe, Duran Duran, etc. But the point still stands: I was totally into those pretty, pretty boys.

And... I still am.

I think there's some validity to the reasoning, here: Very young girls who are just figuring sex out go for boys who seem sexually non-threatening. And so would lesbians. Girls who had experienced sexual abuse would probably go for the theoretically neutered ones, too.

In my case, though the latter was a small factor, it was different. I didn't want those boys because I just wanted to hold hands and walk on the beach with them. I wanted them because I wanted to do the nasty. Only I wanted to be the one doing the...doing. So to speak.

The vast majority of the men I'm attracted to now are ones who have a slightly submissive vibe. Big, macho dudes who want some me-Tarzan missionary lovin' are going to be sadly disappointed with the kind of boinkery I prefer. The non-macho boys, though? Well, speaking from experience, they're plenty happy when someone wants to lay them out and make them see god.

I admit to some annoyance when people assume that because I'm attracted to these kinds of guys, that means I'm secretly a lesbian. Supposedly, what I'm attracted to is femininity, and therefore that means I solely want the ladies.

Ehm.

So, let's look at the women I crushed out on when I was a young thing, shall we?

Martha Quinn
Mary Stuart Masterson (in Watts/Idgie mode)
Ally Sheedy
Jo from Facts of Life

... You get the point.

So, if my attraction to pretty boys means I'm a lesbian, does my attraction to tomboys mean I'm actually straight?

Or, does it really mean that I just have a type, and it's the same basic gender expression, just without too much care about the actual physical configuration?

I'll go with door number three, Monty.


FTR, I do have more types than that. Curvy goddess sorts, for instance. Come to mama, darlings.

Comments

[whuffle.livejournal.com]

Interesting. I'm really glad that I friended you because I'm thoroughly enjoying this series of introspections. I also admire you for them because it's the sort of thing I do in my head but could never do "aloud" where others would see. Guess I'm just not that brave.

I'd say that it's partly like the Japanese anime concept of Bishonen, or "Pretty Boys". They're the emotionally accessible boys, they're the ones who are open minded and willing to have given and take and not assume that their relationships will automatically fall into gender normative role patterns. This happens to also make them a bit closer to the middle of the Kinsey scale when it comes to reading as one gender or the other sexually. This can be just as true of certain types of women who choose to be tough, self reliant, and independent in a way that defies conventional stereotype. When put together as a composite whole, there's a certain type in there, yes. And if you happen to be attracted either physically or intellectually to that type, it stands to reason that you'd be attracted to it in both genders since it is manifest in both.

[hunnyfreak.livejournal.com]

All those boys in the articles I had a crush on. Hmm...

Generally, all the women I am attracted to are the rough and tough, take no bullshit kind of girls. My current lustsation crush is like that. *headdesksighheaddesk*

[jaynedoll.livejournal.com]

I used to get quite a bit of stick when I was younger for the guys I fancied as I liked pretty alternative/rock star types who were usually skinny and looked like rent boys. I wouldn't even class myself as bi so I just think of it as people lacking imagination and thinking that men (or women) have to look a certain way and that certain genders have to look a certain way/play a certain role in the relationship.

[falcongirl.livejournal.com]

I like pretty but if I can't imagine the person giving as good as they get in a hair pulling, scratching, biting, sucking, sheet ripping, screaming for god until they climax so hard they can feel it in every pore of their body workout, then I lose interest in them other than objec d'art.

*ahem* I should perhaps not respond to posts while writing porn.

Carry on.