*breathe*

[textualdeviance]

I just sent a short mail to an adoption attorney.

I honestly don't know if that's really the right place to start, but it'll at least give us a better idea than what I've come up with so far, which has been a giant morass of agencies and agents for agencies and useless directory sites and... blah. No way to tell which ones are a scam, or which ones would balk at handing a kid over to a couple of queer atheists or whatever. The whole thing seems like a big pile of Ponzi schemes and snake oil sales drones.

I'm figuring it'll take months to get through all the paperwork and such, so I may as well get going on it now, even though I'm a little concerned about financial issues at the moment, what with the economy being a disaster.

I guess we'll see what happens next.

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[waterfaery.livejournal.com]

*waving pom pons in your general direction*

[mrdorbin.livejournal.com]

Congratulations! It's the first step, anyway.

[textualdeviance.livejournal.com]

Thank you!

Are you guys in the pool yet?

[mrdorbin.livejournal.com]

We just got the go-ahead to print our materials out today; Ben's down at the Kinko's right now making sure they look ok on paper before having them run a print job. So we should be open for business by the end of the week.

[textualdeviance.livejournal.com]

Yay!

Crossing my fingers that this all goes quickly and smoothly!

[thefirstalicat.livejournal.com]

Good luck!

Obviously adoption laws differ from place to place, but fwiw, when our friends M&J decided to adopt from China, it took approximately 2 years to go through the whole process - from first applying to the Provincial agency dealing with adoption, to passing their (fairly rigourous) requirements concerning "suitability," to being approved; then they waited until they received a call telling them to be prepared to go to China to pick up their child in, like, a week or something.

Weirdly, they have to go through that whole entire process again now that they're attempting to adopt a second child from the same country, even though the "authorities" have all their information already....

All of which is to say, don't expect to have the little tyke in your arms tomorrow!

[textualdeviance.livejournal.com]

Yeah, international takes forever because of immigration issues and all that. We're more than likely going to stick with domestic. China wouldn't take us anyway--I'm too fat.

I'm quite nervous about the scrutiny involved, actually. There are a couple of real concerns--mostly involving my physical and mental health history--but most of it is that I just hate the idea of being picked over like a prize heifer at an auction. It's like the world's worst job interview process. Bleh.

[thefirstalicat.livejournal.com]

international takes forever because of immigration issues and all that. We're more than likely going to stick with domestic

Strangely, from what I gather there's virtually no domestic adoption in Quebec - apparently because Quebec families have tended to be large (6 or more kids) for many generations and families adopt their own, so to speak.

I'm quite nervous about the scrutiny involved, actually

I know that with M&J, they had a delay in their process because the social worker assigned to evaluate their home, work stability and relationship with each other took a dislike to M and made them jump through extra hoops because of it. That's what I'd find most worrisome about that kind of process - the fact that a petty-minded person could wield so much power over a decision that would change my life....