Yeesh

Just realized that about 75% of my posts here in the past few months have been verbose bellyaching and navel-gazing.

Ehm...

Granted, this is basically the only place I do that sort of venting/dumping, and doing it in writing like this is how I keep those sorts of issues from eating me alive, but dang.... Y'all must be thinking I'm a whiny, self-absorbed mess. ;)

I've always bellyached here a lot, but I think it's been overwhelming of late because most of my non-bellyaching stuff is in other spaces: Twitter, FB, fanbitch, etc. I don't really do a lot of the ongoing-life-update stuff I used to here, because I have other resources for that sort of short-form updating.

Wonder if I should make a separate journal just for the Dear Diary stuff, though. I use this account for most of my LJ-land interaction (and this is the account I use for flist reading), so most folks who find me here will find this account first.

Or I could just do those posts only on my personal filter, like I should be in the first place, so I don't keep spamming everyone who has me friended with my existential-crisis-of-the-day. ;)

Random observation

(On a small feminist jag at the moment...)

I've been told before that I'm anti-feminist (and perhaps even sexist) because I reject commodified, caricatured ideals of femininity.*

Just realized that I've also gotten a very similar accusation from folks who think I'm anti-sex because I rect similar caricatures of sexuality.

It's kind of scary, IMHO, that these two artificial constructs are so pervasive that they've become assumed to be essential: That people have become so tied into these definitions of what it means to be a woman or to have enjoyable sex that they figure anything that doesn't conform to those constructs obviously can't be authentic.

It's sort of... Oh... The cultural equivalent of arguing that if you prefer what comes out of the tap to a bottle of Vitamin Water, you're anti-water. Just because that bottle has the word "water" on the label doesn't mean it's the end-all, be-all definition of water. And in fact, it's mostly anything but.**

*Nevermind that I also reject caricatures of masculinity.
**Yeah, the metaphor breaks down there, because it would also have to include serious social penalties for choosing to drink something other than Vitamin Water...