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Aren't we beyond this whole "lookit the freaks!" thing?
The article isn't negative, per se. It's just treating these poor guys as if they're some sort of strange novelty, like some eccentric who collects Victorian hair jewelry or something.
I think there are a ton more bi guys in existence than are out. They're just not very visible, because there's such a stigma about it. The reaction many gay men and straight women have to the concept is so childish and negative that it's not surprising many of them just try to ignore one side or the other of their attractions and blend in: If they're honest, it's hard to get laid.*
The strangest part about this reaction, IMHO, is that it stems from the same sexist bullshit: Both stupid straight women and stupid gay men see bi men as somehow feminized and therefore less attractive. The straight chicks obsess about bottoming and figure any guy who would remotely consider a passive sexual role must be a big ol' girl. And the gay guys figure any guy who wants a woman must be a pathetic loser who wants the supposedly inherently feminine state of being married and having kids.
(Of course, then there's the other contingent of gay men who fetishize "straight" guys who cheat on their wives. If those guys were actually out bisexuals instead of downlow, lying bastards, it'd totally kill their buzz, I guess. W'ev.)
In any case, I really wish people would just get over it, so more men could feel comfortable being honest about who they are.
*Though it's far easier for a bi guy to get laid if he already hangs out in some sort of alternative culture: Pagan, geek, SCAdian, etc. Notions of gender roles are already a bit more flexible there, so there's less of a stigma.
The article isn't negative, per se. It's just treating these poor guys as if they're some sort of strange novelty, like some eccentric who collects Victorian hair jewelry or something.
I think there are a ton more bi guys in existence than are out. They're just not very visible, because there's such a stigma about it. The reaction many gay men and straight women have to the concept is so childish and negative that it's not surprising many of them just try to ignore one side or the other of their attractions and blend in: If they're honest, it's hard to get laid.*
The strangest part about this reaction, IMHO, is that it stems from the same sexist bullshit: Both stupid straight women and stupid gay men see bi men as somehow feminized and therefore less attractive. The straight chicks obsess about bottoming and figure any guy who would remotely consider a passive sexual role must be a big ol' girl. And the gay guys figure any guy who wants a woman must be a pathetic loser who wants the supposedly inherently feminine state of being married and having kids.
(Of course, then there's the other contingent of gay men who fetishize "straight" guys who cheat on their wives. If those guys were actually out bisexuals instead of downlow, lying bastards, it'd totally kill their buzz, I guess. W'ev.)
In any case, I really wish people would just get over it, so more men could feel comfortable being honest about who they are.
*Though it's far easier for a bi guy to get laid if he already hangs out in some sort of alternative culture: Pagan, geek, SCAdian, etc. Notions of gender roles are already a bit more flexible there, so there's less of a stigma.
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