I'm not bi, but most of the friends my husband and I hold dear are bi, gay, lesbian, and a lot of them are poly. We're way too damned vanilla for the crowd we hang out with but that never bothers most of us. So I know how you feel a bit where that's concerned.
One of the things that frequently bothers me as an observer within our friends group is the number of times I see people making mistaken assumptions about other people just because of one facet of their sexuality. Someone says they're bi but then ends up dating a long term partner of the opposite sex and suddenly other bi people in the same social group lose respect for him or her because they went with convention. To hell with whether or not the choice of partner was based on love and attraction. They did the conventional thing so they're automatically given less respect.
These are people who should know better than to do that to each other, and yet they still do. So how people who aren't as open minded would handle it is something I try not to think about too hard.
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Date: 2011-04-19 03:01 am (UTC)One of the things that frequently bothers me as an observer within our friends group is the number of times I see people making mistaken assumptions about other people just because of one facet of their sexuality. Someone says they're bi but then ends up dating a long term partner of the opposite sex and suddenly other bi people in the same social group lose respect for him or her because they went with convention. To hell with whether or not the choice of partner was based on love and attraction. They did the conventional thing so they're automatically given less respect.
These are people who should know better than to do that to each other, and yet they still do. So how people who aren't as open minded would handle it is something I try not to think about too hard.