Texty

Re the church service thing: try to think of your being there just as a support for your husband, and let the religious-speak just wash over you. When my brother died, my mom put together a memorial service at her church a month later, which Chris and I flew to SF to attend; like you, I'm pretty down on organized religion and don't have any belief in my mother's god, but she wanted that service to help her and if she wanted us there to support her, that was okay. Incidentally, it did also give me a sort of formalized space of time in which to say my own goodbyes to Ian, and although I'd already really done so, any chance one has for a time of reflection is good, I think....