So you're accusing these people of child abuse. Nice.
You're also making some assumptions about this particular family and their dynamics. I work with a man that works two jobs so his wife can stay home with their 8 kids, and their house is messy, sure, but they've got great kids that are homeschooled, and play sports, and well, why not. There are just as many kids that are only children or have one sibling that are neglected or have to parent their siblings. I can think of one friend right now that was basically raised by his sister because their mother was in and out of mental institutions. It's sad, but someone took a responsibility there, and if it is an older sibling, then that's better than a foster parent or an aunt or grandmother that is too old and unfamiliar with the kid. I know his sister, and she isn't the worse for the experience.
What bothers me is a kid that is raised in an indulgent manner, and has control over the parents. Those kids are not well-prepared for life, because they have this sense of entitlement- that everything will be given to them just because they *need* it rightnow, not because they've worked towards a goal.
As for saying big families create a sense of all the things you listed, I could just as easily find an article about the family that has 8 kids, all of them Merit Scholars and Ivy-League. What your husband went through and stories you've heard about other people's large families probably involve more variables than family size.
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Date: 2004-04-08 12:29 pm (UTC)You're also making some assumptions about this particular family and their dynamics. I work with a man that works two jobs so his wife can stay home with their 8 kids, and their house is messy, sure, but they've got great kids that are homeschooled, and play sports, and well, why not. There are just as many kids that are only children or have one sibling that are neglected or have to parent their siblings. I can think of one friend right now that was basically raised by his sister because their mother was in and out of mental institutions. It's sad, but someone took a responsibility there, and if it is an older sibling, then that's better than a foster parent or an aunt or grandmother that is too old and unfamiliar with the kid. I know his sister, and she isn't the worse for the experience.
What bothers me is a kid that is raised in an indulgent manner, and has control over the parents. Those kids are not well-prepared for life, because they have this sense of entitlement- that everything will be given to them just because they *need* it rightnow, not because they've worked towards a goal.
As for saying big families create a sense of all the things you listed, I could just as easily find an article about the family that has 8 kids, all of them Merit Scholars and Ivy-League. What your husband went through and stories you've heard about other people's large families probably involve more variables than family size.
And that's all I'm going to say about that.