I will say this--you say that you feel like other people would feel like you should feel like this actor you fancy is just a pretty face seen from afar, and you shouldn't see him as a person. I don't think that there are many people who would actually think that, to be honest, and maybe you should ask some of them about how they feel about artists of various sorts, or tycoons, or famous people in general and see what they say.
Because what I see in people admiring an artist (not just his body of work or whatever, but he himself or she herself) is people striving for a connection with that artist. It's why some fans can get so rabid after the actor or musician they admire--they want that personal connection, they see the person as, well, a person. Someone they could be friends with. And they want that.
I think, to quote, possibly inappositely, Meg Ryan's character in You've Got Mail, that "whatever else something is, it ought to start by being personal."
I think seeing this guy or anyone else you admire or are attracted to as a person, as more than just a pretty face, is the right thing to do. If nothing else, it's at least the respectful thing to do. :)
So...not that you wanted my vote, but I vote for subjectifying people whenever possible, rather than objectifying them. :) And that starts by seeing them as people.
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Date: 2011-02-21 08:27 am (UTC)I will say this--you say that you feel like other people would feel like you should feel like this actor you fancy is just a pretty face seen from afar, and you shouldn't see him as a person. I don't think that there are many people who would actually think that, to be honest, and maybe you should ask some of them about how they feel about artists of various sorts, or tycoons, or famous people in general and see what they say.
Because what I see in people admiring an artist (not just his body of work or whatever, but he himself or she herself) is people striving for a connection with that artist. It's why some fans can get so rabid after the actor or musician they admire--they want that personal connection, they see the person as, well, a person. Someone they could be friends with. And they want that.
I think, to quote, possibly inappositely, Meg Ryan's character in You've Got Mail, that "whatever else something is, it ought to start by being personal."
I think seeing this guy or anyone else you admire or are attracted to as a person, as more than just a pretty face, is the right thing to do. If nothing else, it's at least the respectful thing to do. :)
So...not that you wanted my vote, but I vote for subjectifying people whenever possible, rather than objectifying them. :) And that starts by seeing them as people.